CARTER MATRIX OF EMOTIONS


STRESS                              EMOTION                  RELATION TO OTHERS




















     
FIGHT
(Solve the Problem)

We resist the stress
and attempt to
change the situation
MAD


The emotion gives us
extra energy to
overcome obstacles, or
fight invaders
“GET OUT OF MY SPACE”


We demand that
others respect our
rights.  People who
get all their energy
from anger “get rid
of” a lot of people
in their lives
RUN
(Avoid)


We attempt to
withdraw from toxic
elements in our life
AFRAID


Our senses are
alerted.  We feel
alarm or disgust and
move away from
the cause
“I’LL GET OUT OF YOUR
SPACE”

People who feel bad
about their own worth
often try to “get away”
from people or situations
that arouse anxiety
COPE
(Accept the Situation)

We accept the loss or
comply with the demand
SAD
(Grief, hurt)

Our metabolism slows
down, as we try to
accept painful losses or
disappointment.  We
are physically and
mentally vulnerable
“COME INTO MY SPACE”

Others see our hurt
and come toward us
to give comfort and
encouragement.  This
helps us to accept
otherwise unbearable
losses
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